Bar/Bat Mitzvah

Family celebrates combined Bar Mitzvah/Upanayana ceremony

A Kahal B’raira Bar/Bat Mitzvah is an exploration of what it means to be Humanistic and Jewish. You don't have to be a teenager, or even Jewish, to participate in this ritual. 

  • The student works with a mentor/tutor, completes an independent study and a community service project, and creates a meaningful coming of age ceremony.  Adults members can also become Bar/Bat Mitzvah following the same process.
  • Some ceremonies involve reading from the torah while others focus on the student's art, music, creative writing or other interests.  All are wonderful – each in their own way!
  • The congregation’s B’nai Mitzvah Coordinator, Renee Lubowich,leads a workshop for member families to learn about the process of study and celebration of bar/bat mitzvah.  Renee is available as a consultant to families throughout the process.

In one example, a KB bat mitzvah student created a calendar featuring paintings and drawings done by Palestinian and Israeli teenagers including a statement by each young artist about their lives and hopes.  She sold the calendars and donated the proceeds to three relationship-building organizations – ArtsBridge, Hand in Hand Schools and Seeds of Peace.

Here's what KB families are saying after their child’s ceremony:

“My entire family was very moved by our son becoming a Bar Mitzvah.  The fact that the Hebrew, the prayers, all of the rituals, incorporated tradition but had integrity of Humanistic Judaism was especially important to us.”
 “My son is bi-racial, and his mother’s family is African-American and not Jewish.  The theme of the service was being Black and Jewish.  I was told by many that it was unforgettable.”